“Toxic workplaces” are a hot topic in business literature. And apparently, rightfully so – employee surveys continue to document the downward spiral of job satisfaction and employee engagement across all types of industries and work environments.

But a “victim” mentality is starting to emerge in the world of work (which probably reflects this growing tendency in our culture at large). The tenor of the message increasingly sounds like: “I have the worst job!”, or “You should feel sorry for me because I have a bully boss.”

My professional expertise is in helping workplace environments become more positive and healthy, so I am fully aware of the negative, damaging communication that occurs in many work settings. I am appalled at the stories I hear from employees, supervisors and managers (the dysfunction impacts all levels of an organization) and the damaging statements and actions that are occurring.

But we are not passive victims that don’t have the capability to impact those with whom we work on a daily basis. As I remind those groups to whom I speak, being “dysfunctional” is not limited to everyone else – we often contribute to the sickness of the system in which we work.

If you work in a toxic workplace – one that is poisonous, damaging, and even potentially dangerous to the mental and emotional health of those who work there – there are steps you can take to make your workplace less toxic.

First, do a self-assessment. Ask yourself and consider, “What am I doing that really isn’t that helpful in creating a positive workplace?” This could include both actions (complaining about a co-worker to another colleague) and attitudes (harboring anger and grudges for past offenses). Consider the following terms, and see if any might apply to you:

• Grumbling
• Irritable
• Complaining
• Quick temper
• Unpredictable
• Territorial
• Impatient
• Quick to find fault
• Rarely compliment anyone
• Gossiping
• Uncooperative
• Withhold information
• Unreliable
• Non-communicative
• “It’s their problem” attitude

The second pro-active step you can take is to actively disengage from participating in negative interactions. This can mean – quit complaining (remember the saying, “If you can’t say anything positive, don’t say anything at all”?). Also, when you are involved in a group discussion and it turns negative, excuse yourself. You don’t have to say anything, and don’t judge others. Just quietly excuse yourself and don’t contribute. Your leaving will send a message – and may lead to a follow-up discussion with one of the team members (“I noticed you left when we starting griping about management’s lack of communication.” “Yea, I’ve decided to try to not engage in that type of discussion. I’ve found it really isn’t helpful.”)

Beginning to communicate positive messages to others is the third simple step we each can take. Often, the easiest way is to share your appreciation for your teammates, and the work they do. A simple “thanks” can be meaningful – especially if it specific (“Jen, thanks for getting your report to me on time. That will help me get the information together for the manager’s meeting without having to rush at the last minute.”) This can be effective in “softening up” even those colleagues who seem fairly hardened and angry, though it may take some time.

“That’s it?”, you may ask. Quit being so negative and try to be more positive?

Yes, that is the starting point. We know that toxic workplaces are comprised of many components, but one of the key aspects is the accumulated negative communication (and lack of positive messages) that feed off of each other and become like a poisonous gas that suffocates those working in it.

Also, we know that when individuals start taking responsibility for themselves and their actions, and they have a sense that they can make a difference – change can occur.

So even though you may work in a really toxic environment, don’t succumb to the belief that it is all just happening to you. Figure out what you can do to not add to the trash and help clean up the air a bit.

More From Dr. Paul White

An Antidote for Disengagement: Being Appreciative for Your Job

Do You Have a “Difficult to Appreciate” Co-Worker?

Appreciation in an International Multi-Cultural Organization

Paul White, Ph.D., is a speaker, trainer, author and psychologist who “makes work relationships work.” Dr. White is co-author of Rising Above a Toxic Workplace, and has developed training resources to help businesses avoid becoming toxic. For more information, go to appreciationatwork.com/toxicworkplaces .